. . . the most rewarding and sometimes the most challenging and painful of human experiences. Our
first role models for relationships are usually our parents. And, before you decide to blame your
parents for your failed relationships remember, they got their relationship “software” from their
parents who got theirs from their parents, and so on. Blaming your parents or others for your
relationship difficulties just reinforces the problem. When you blame others for your problems you
establish and/or reinforce a victim mentality at the subconscious level. This program says that
other people and forces control your life.
With beliefs like that you can see why you attract people and situations that make
life difficult. The subconscious mind is simply programmed to recognize and attract what is familiar, not
necessarily what is desirable. When you list all the qualities you want in a relationship partner be
sure you possess those qualities yourself in order to attract them!