You have lost your power in the shadows
The root cause of all pain and suffering in our world is SEPARATION. We experience separation from 'God', from each other and from ourselves. We are separate from our true power and we are separate from love. This separation is within our mind and it is the separated mind that creates our separate world. As long as we perceive ourselves as separate and not whole, pain and suffering result.
When we disown, judge or reject any part of us, whether we feel that part is 'good' or 'bad', then we become fragmented and are not whole. In this separation we lose the power, energy or capacity of that part and that energy is not available to us when we need it, at least not by loving choice. Instead it may emerge as a uncontrolled and unwanted reaction. In addition, it takes a lot of energy to suppress or keep these parts our selves hidden. If we cannot own them ourselves, then they are often projected onto others in the form of judgment and hate. These projections result in triggers and opposing 'mirrors'. - the enemies. When we are emotionally triggered by someone else, it is usually because they represent an aspect of our own unconscious, unowned shadow.
To be free, we need to find and embrace our hidden shadows
To be free, we not only need to reprogram our minds with empowering beliefs and emotions, we also need to heal the separation in our mind. This separation typically occurs in early childhood in reaction to some 'trauma' , an emotional misunderstanding or painful experience. The separation of mind occurred as a strategy to avoid survive the pain we felt at that time. or to "fit in" and be loved. Healing the separation typically requires moving towards the held pain, feeling the pain and emotionally processing it. Often these early 'traumas' are unconscious in memory but usually can be resolved through accessing the emotions and healed through forgiveness processes.
These shadows are often referred to as "light" or "dark". We might judge and perceive energies such as anger, lying, arrogance, depression, and shame as dark and unwanted, but most of us have also rejected parts of our brilliance... our power, beauty and innocence.
To be whole, we need to embrace and integrate ALL of these separated energies or we will continue to do battle with them in some form for the rest of our lives. When we embrace them, we access our authentic power and rest in peace, and love. We gain wisdom.
Forgiveness is the key to healing a separated mind. Love, compassion, happiness, peace, joy, power and wisdom are the lasting gifts and rewards for doing this important life work.